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  • Help for people dealing with pedophile thoughts?

    Probably not something we think about much, but another post got me thinking. If someone finds themselves struggling with inappropriate thoughts toward children, what help is there available for them? Obviously they are responsible for their own actions if they act upon these thoughts, but if someone is having a very hard time not thinking this way, it will get harder and harder to avoid acting on it. Is there any way such a person can get help without ending up in legal trouble even if they have not done anything yet?

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    Seek professional help. That's the only way to take care of the problem. If they are thinking it, then they need help. Why would you wait for it to happen, then seek help?

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    • #3
      They wont even need to find a special institution that caters to them because every city have a psychologist or psychiatrist. All they need to do is to go to those professionals who can help them fight their inappropriate urge. Some of them on the other hand resorted to dating proportionate midgets. They look like little children but they were of legal age. Professional help is still their best option.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by JoshPosh View Post
        Seek professional help. That's the only way to take care of the problem. If they are thinking it, then they need help. Why would you wait for it to happen, then seek help?
        Pedophilia is a huge stigma in our society, even if you've never acted upon it in any way. Therefore it's probably incredibly hard for people with those thoughts to go out and seek help. You'd be really ashamed and scared for it to get out because the threat of violence is very real if it does.

        When acted upon it's obviously a terrible crime, but I think if we encouraged people to seek help instead of cast them out for having urges they can't control there'd be fewer cases where they can no longer help it and act upon them.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by DancingLady View Post
          Probably not something we think about much, but another post got me thinking. If someone finds themselves struggling with inappropriate thoughts toward children, what help is there available for them? Obviously they are responsible for their own actions if they act upon these thoughts, but if someone is having a very hard time not thinking this way, it will get harder and harder to avoid acting on it. Is there any way such a person can get help without ending up in legal trouble even if they have not done anything yet?
          The fear of being a pedophile is indeed a scary place to be. These thoughts many times fall under the category of obsessive-compulsive disorders. The WHO defines OCD in the following way:

          "The essential feature of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is recurrent obsessional thoughts or compulsive acts. Obsessional thoughts are ideas, images or impulses that enter the individual's mind again and again in a stereotyped form. They are almost invariably distressing (because they are violent or obscene, or simply because they are perceived as senseless) and the sufferer often tries, unsuccessfully, to resist them. They are, however, recognized as the individual's own thoughts, even though they are involuntary and often repugnant."

          I agree with many of the posters in this thread that an individual with these thoughts NEEDS immediate help, not only for the safety of others but for his or her own sanity as well. I strongly recommend that an individual seek counseling as soon as possible. I don't believe that they would get into any trouble from a legal standpoint by seeking help if they had not yet acted on these thoughts. If that individual finds themselves in a situation where they think that they may not be able to control their urges I would recommend calling a crisis hot line immediately.

          Crises Call Center: 1-800-273-8255

          Crisis Call Center’s 24-hour crisis line is here to provide a safe, non-judgmental source of support for individuals in any type of crisis. In addition to our 24-hour crisis hotline, we also offer crisis intervention through text messaging.
          http://www.crisiscallcenter.org/crisisservices.html

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          • #6
            I wonder how many people think they will be ruined if they admit to it, even to a professional psychologist? That's why I wanted to bring up the subject. There are so many cases of child sex abuse that it makes me really wonder if the perpetrators end up doing things because they never knew they could get help so the problem got out of control.

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            • #7
              People dealing with issues like that should find at least somebody they trust to talk with. I believe its something of a mental disorder and, while the two are not the same, homosexuality was treated the same way until recently. If there was greater public understanding of it, I feel people would be able to get help and there would be a decrease int the number of incidents. Of course, the chances of it becoming anyway understood by the general public is very slim.

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              • #8
                There are options out there. Psychiatric help should be their first try. If it gets too hard to handle and be really doesn't want to do anything or hurt anyone, chemical castration could help. And if it means saving one more child from that horrible fate, any doctor in the world would do it for him.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by JoshPosh View Post
                  Seek professional help. That's the only way to take care of the problem. If they are thinking it, then they need help. Why would you wait for it to happen, then seek help?
                  I fully agree with you. A counsellor that I had met said that an urge or maybe a strong but controllable urge for something is an indication of a budding addiction. That means you need professional help. But for those away in the rural, a moral support can ably do the job. Like in this particular topic of pedophilia, a partner or close friend can wean him away from the troublesome thought of molesting children. It's only in the mind and you can lick it with the help of another person.

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                  • #10
                    ThIs may sound disturbing but even though it is illegal in Japan for pedos to sexually assault children, sexual depiction of children via comic books and anime were legal in Japan. They have a specific genre for it and they sell it in comic book shops. The excuse why it is legal, is that they were not real children. They were only hand drawn fictional depictions. Animated and comic book depiction of child pornis legal in Japan because the think there are no real children are harmed.

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                    • #11
                      DancingLady that's real food for thought. Although we tend to think that all paedophiles should be immediately sent to the electric chair, the reality is that the majority of them are not and are, in fact, released back into society. Surely helping people to deal with such urges and control them is way more productive than dealing with the aftermath.

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                      • #12
                        If you tell the doctor you have been having these thoughts and urges, that is enough to allow them to turn you in. It doesn't matter if you've done it yet or not. I hate pedophiles as much as anyone does. But the ones who haven't acted on it are just ill and need help. But, like I said, having the urge, if they fight it or not, is enough to get them turned over to police.

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                        • #13
                          It is against nature. People harboring thoughts about it carry some kind of mental inadequacy. Professional help, as JoshPosh suggested is the only way to counter such menace. However, if someone intentionally does it, he/she must be censured promptly.

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                          • #14
                            This is a really interesting question, I think that the best way to deal with those thoughts is going to therapy, it can help a lot to control themselves and to learn how to live with those thoughts without hurting anyone, I guess. But if that person has done something already, it would be a problem if they go to therapy because as a therapist, if one of your patients have done something illegal you should call the police... But I think that's the best way to deal with those situations... I think is the same thing with killers, a lot of people have thoughts of killing/hurting people but just a few of them react in order to their instincts.

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                            • #15
                              This makes me think of a character on the show "Ray Donovan", who was abused as a child and is constantly in fear he will become a pedophile. Society deems people who sexually assault a child as deserving death, but what about the ones who know they have a problem, but haven't offended? Do you really believe most people feel comfortable even admitting they have inappropriate fantasies? How many people would even accept that, although they are probably looking for help? I am not condoning the acts against children in any way, but when society so easily labels pedophiles as nothing but "perverts" and "throw-away people", then they are adding to an already serious problem, in my view.

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